Title: All Your Perfects
Author: Colleen Hoover
Genre: New Adult, Romance
Publisher: Atria Books
Date Published: July 17, 2018
Goodreads Rating: 4.35
Personal Rating: ☆☆☆☆/5
“What’s the secret to a perfect marriage?’ The old man leaned forward and looked at me very seriously. ‘Our marriage hasn’t been perfect. No marriage is perfect. There were times when she gave up on us. There were even more times when I gave up on us. The secret to our longevity is that we never gave up at the same time.”
Colleen Hoover delivers a tour de force novel about a troubled marriage and the one old forgotten promise that might be able to save it.
Quinn and Graham’s perfect love is threatened by their imperfect marriage. The memories, mistakes, and secrets that they have built up over the years are now tearing them apart. The one thing that could save them might also be the very thing that pushes their marriage beyond the point of repair.
All Your Perfects is a profound novel about a damaged couple whose potential future hinges on promises made in the past. This is a heartbreaking page-turner that asks: Can a resounding love with a perfect beginning survive a lifetime between two imperfect people?
Graham – an almost perfect husband who loves and understands his wife without being judgmental and demanding.
Quinn – a frustrated wife who can sometimes displace her disappointments towards her husband.
MY PERSONAL THOUGHTS
This book is perfect in so many ways. Motherhood is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I wouldn’t trade it for anything else. Lavishing the perks of being a mom made me forget that there are women or couples out there who are having difficulties when it comes to conceiving. Sometimes people can be insensitive and too proud that they become hurtful and offensive especially through social media. This novel is obviously an eye-opener. I love how Colleen talked about things that are common in our everyday lives that we usually don’t give too much attention to. From her first book up to this latest story, her readers have always been left breathless and speechless! It was not as intense as It Ends with Us or as kinky as Ugly Love but this masterpiece brought me tears and joy. I was able to look into an infertile woman’s perspective and understood all her fears and frustrations more. Sometimes I wonder why some of the people I know don’t settle yet or why some of the couples we know don’t have kids yet. I thought they were just enjoying their times together and I oftentimes forget the reality that there could be a problem or that there is so much more behind the pictures that I’m seeing. Yes, being a mother makes a woman feel complete and satisfied but for all the women out there who are struggling to become one, I just hope and wish that you will not be too hard on yourselves or your partners. I know that it is so easy for me to say this given the fact that I got pregnant twice too easily but I’m with you here ladies, I’m with you. I understand and feel those disappointments and you are not alone in this battle. You should communicate with your husband more because expressing and saying what you feel are two different things. By expressing our frustrations we could hurt the people who truly care about us. What we need to do is say it, say it out loud just to get the heavy feeling out of our chests. The characters are really fascinating! They started just like how the majority of couples felt during the first few years of a relationship. Graham is a decent guy with a very composed personality. Quinn is a happy person at first but I didn’t like the person she becomes as the years went by. I am so impressed with how the author created the male character. Sometimes we put too much blame on the husbands stating that it’s always their fault when infidelity arises but this story is a reality checker! Maybe, just maybe, the wife also contributed to the outcome or aggravated the circumstances. I am not a full-pledged feminist or something, I value our rights as women, but there are instances when enough is enough and we can’t justify all-out actions just because we are hurting. I also like how the setting changed from the US to Europe. Sometimes a fresh start is all we need; moving to a new place gives us a different view about life and the future. Doing it together with the person we love the most is very exciting, it scary but exciting! The unexpected twist broke my heart! I was also desperate for Graham and Quinn to have their own kids but things don’t always turn out the way we want and planned them. There are turns that do not lead us to a happy ending but we could always make the circumstances different. It is always a matter of how we look at it. Quinn is a very brave person and I admire her for that but I will always remember how Graham helped her and supported her all throughout. We just all need someone who will never give up on us no matter what a mess we have been. I highly recommend this book especially to couples out there. If you are a mother, you should read this so you could be more sensitive and appreciative. If you are not a mother yet, I suggest that you read this as well because it is very inspiring and it will give you a different outlook when it comes to motherhood and life all in all.
“When you meet someone who is good for you, they won’t fill you with insecurities by focusing on your flaws. They’ll fill you with inspiration because they’ll focus on all the best parts of you.”
“We’re all full of flaws. Hundreds of them. They’re like tiny holes all over our skin. And like your fortune said, sometimes we shine too much light on our own flaws. But there are some people who try to ignore their own flaws by shining light on other people’s to the point that the other person’s flaws become their only focus. They pick at them, little by little until they rip wide open and that’s all we become to them. One giant, gaping flaw.”
“The problem is, love and happiness are not concordant. One can exist without the other.”
“Apologies are good for admitting regret, but they do very little in removing the truth from the actions that caused the regret.”
“Gratitude is born in the struggle. And we have definitely struggled.”
• I really like that this was a very fast read and I did not have a hard time understanding or relating to it. It is full of scenes that are very realistic and people can really dig in deeper. I like that this is not a fairytale where one can expect a perfect ending. I have always been impressed with Colleen’s writing style.
• The characters are impressive because even though the reader is not undergoing the same hurts and frustrations, one can still fully understand the message that Hoover wants to spread.
• I hate that Graham is too much for Quinn. Don’t get me wrong, she has all the right to get frustrated with life but she took him for granted and despise her for that. People need to know when enough is enough.
• The way their story started is a bit off. It is not okay to be a rebound and I just felt that way about them from the start. Anyway, their story still progressed it’s just that I’m an old soul and I am not a fan of the ‘rebound’ thing.
• Being a parent does not necessarily mean that the child has to be your own blood. Being a mother or a father means loving someone unconditionally and caring for them without questions and hesitations.
• People should be mindful and sensitive when asking a couple about their plans about bearing a child. Just because a couple does not have kids yet doesn’t mean they are not trying.
• Having kids is not the only measure of the success of a marriage.
• Alternate means of having a family can be considered. This does not mean that it will make the couple less of a parent.
Overall Rating: ☆☆☆☆/5